Painful

It is painful when spending time with them, seeing how time changes things.

I wish I can be by their side, as time is always not enough.

Choosing between love and reality, there is always a hard choice to be made.

It is painful...

Parents coming over

Friday is coming!

Finally, the day that I am very looking forward is coming. My parents are coming on this Friday. After being nearly two years here in Singapore, this is the very first time they want to come over for a visiting:)

In fact, I am really excited. I have planned how the three days should be spent on. Although three days are kinda short, I still hope that they can enjoy the trip.

Anonymous

Don't know why, I just wish my blog belongs to an anonymous.

Nobody who knows me will read this blog, so that I can write all my deep secrets here.

Nobody who sees me before will read this blog, so that I can share all my happiness and bitterness here, without being criticised.

I am falling into my own deep depressed trap, depression is consuming me up.

All the happiness seems to be temporary, sadness will hop himself in.

Sometimes, I just wish I can be happier, thou I know I am supposed to be happy.

Maybe it's my own attitude, my own character. Life is never in satisfaction.

Stop, I have to stop thinking negatively. Life goes on...

Nobody cares, but I still have to live on my life, as simple as it can, as happy as it can.

I promise myself when I launch this blog, that the happy entries must be more than the sad entries. The fact is I am trying hard to control the sad entries to appear in this blog.

Many people may think this is not me, is it?

Left

Once again, I was being left on the street (or should say, on the bus)?

I wonder, why I should be treated this way? I never did so to other people. World is unfair...

Is it wrong to cool down myself by not talking, just listening to music?

Nobody can understand, nobody cares...

Who am I to you?

Mr / Miss Right

許多人往往在抉擇伴侶時，容易東想西想，不知所措，
就是因為害怕一時做錯決定，看錯人，造成終生的遺憾。

諾貝爾文學獎得主蕭伯納說：「此時此刻在地球上，
約有兩萬個人適合當你的人生伴侶，就看你先遇到哪一個，
如果在第二個理想伴侶出現之前，你已經跟前一個人發展出
相知相惜、互相信賴的深層關係，那後者就會變成你的好朋友，
　
但是若你跟前一個人沒有培養出深層關係，感情就容易動搖、變心，
直到你與這些理想伴侶候選人的其中一位擁有穩固的深情，
才是幸福的開始，漂泊的結束。」

愛上一個人不需要靠努力，只需要靠「際遇」，
是上天的安排，但是「持續地愛一個人」 就要靠「努力」，在愛情的經營中，
順暢運轉的要素就是溝通、體諒、包容與自制(面臨誘惑有所自制)。

有許多人總是為「際遇」所迷惑與苦惱，意念不停、慾念不斷、爭逐不散，
而忘了培養經營感情的能力才是幸福的關鍵。
所以不要去追問到底誰才是我的Mr.Right / Miss Right，
　
而是要問說在眼前的伴侶關係中，我能努力到什麼程度、
成長到什麼程度，若沒有培養出經營幸福的能力，
就算真的 Mr / Miss Right出現在你身邊，
　
幸福依然會錯過的，而活在猶疑與遺憾當中，
這不就是許多愛情虛無症的遭遇與心態嗎？
若你此刻已有一位長久相伴的伴侶，
不要再隨便三心二意地猶疑了，
　
我們往往不易察覺感情中的一個陷阱，
就是「近親生慢侮」，也就是經濟學中的鐵律
「邊際效益遞減法則」，
　
跟你在一起越久的人，就越容易麻木與忽視，
而新鮮的「際遇」總是那麼動人可愛。

在感情對待中，難免有摩擦與無心的傷害，
而且論得罪自己的次數累加起來最多的人，
當然是跟我們在一起最久、最親近的人；
　
而新歡呢，又還沒開始有得罪你的機會，
再加上他的刻意討好，所以新歡怎麼看怎麼可愛，
舊愛怎麼看怎麼討厭。

但別忘了，新歡身上總是有不確定的未知數，
舊愛身上就是有難得的熟悉感、確定感、信賴感。
千萬不要隨便在偶然的「際遇」中迷失了自己，錯放了幸福溫暖的手。
　
所以蕭伯納的話，是要提醒情人不要太鑽牛角尖於尋覓那唯一，
應該把精神用在學會經營幸福的能力上，
同時也提醒我們「溺水三千，只取一瓢飲」。

若有幸遇到了難得的伴侶，就不要再三心二意了，
因為我們永遠不知道一生何時會遇到兩萬個其中的幾個，
所以要知福惜福、活在當下。

Labour Day

Labour Day weekend just pass in such normal routine way. However, I have done a good deed. I have brought an ex classmate around Singapore yesterday.

This is the first time i have became a tour guide. I think I am not too bad:P Have to request comment from that friend. Hehe. Now waiting for coming Wesak Day holiday. Life is not only about working, but also about relaxing ourselves:)